Category: Contemplations

Word of mouth is not evidence

Read the following: On a TV show this morning they invited a person onto the show that accused a high ranking government official of saying egregious things to the widow of a recently fallen soldier. How do you feel about this? Do you think this is true? Now, read this: On “The View” this morning they invited a Democratic congresswoman…

Did you want to do what you did?

When is the last time you realized that you didn’t decide to do what you just spent two hours doing? For example, when you want to find some numbers in an old email and instead find yourself half an hour later responding to yet another unrelated email. Or, you open Facebook while riding the subway only to miss your stop…

Go back and do it the new way

When you’re developing a new habit, if you catch yourself following your old habit, go back and do it the new way. For example, let’s say someone tells me about a new driving route that’s faster than my current route. No doubt I’ll find myself slipping into the familiar route. When this happens and I notice, I can turn the…

Your thoughts are not your own

When you think and feel, it’s easy to assume that what you think and feel is what you want and who you are. If a big decision is being made and you favor one outcome over another, is it because of your thoughts alone? Perhaps you felt strongly one way over another, but is that way really the way that…

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One of the first things I learned when I moved to New York City is that people don’t follow the signs. People go when other people go. And people stop when other people stop. It doesn’t matter much what traffic is doing. I’ve noticed, if I don’t go when the light turns to walk, that other people will often wait…

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I LOVE these new light fixtures we found this weekend. What do you think? A few days ago I stumbled upon several light fixtures missing covers in our kitchen. Turns out Jonathan removed them because there “wasn’t enough light.” At first I was repulsed, they appeared unsightly. Then I wondered, what if we had bought these fixtures from a high…

Who should change?

When something is bothering you, and you assess your options to deal with it, don’t forget to consider what you can do about it. All too often we look at options for how others can fix the situation and we overlook the ways in which we can fix it without the help of anyone else. For example, say someone is…

Petty morality is the reason you’re not happy

If you let go of right and wrong life becomes much easier to deal with, and much happier. I’m not saying that you never shun certain behaviors, but if you understand the fluidity of morality, you see that in most situations you don’t have to get worked up anymore over petty things. You can simply change your beliefs, in real…