What does keeping score get you?

In many situations people keep a score.

In relationships, it’s the number of times I take out the trash versus you. Or, do the dishes.

In business, it’s how often you’ve worked late or cleaned up after a disaster.

In any situation, keeping a score, and pointing it out, is almost second nature. It’s easy to be disturbed by how unfair things are, or so they seem.

And maybe things are off balance. But, what does keeping score get you? Why is it that things have to be balanced?

I’ve found that if you just take out the trash, or work late, that other people will do the same when they can. And things get done. Conversely, when people keep count I’ve only ever seen arguments that increasingly distance people until a relationship becomes irreparable.