Being happy, without compromising, when you don’t get your way

  1. Liking is familiarity. You might think that liking is out of your control but that’s not true. You like what you’re familiar with. So, if you don’t like something you just need to give yourself time to get to know it.

  2. Liking or disliking is of course linked to the valence of the experience. Was it good or bad? In every experience there’s never 100% good nor 100% bad. You can look for a good opportunity in anything, or bad, you will find what you look for.

  3. Put these two pieces together: seek positive exposure to things that didn’t turn out the way you wanted and in no time you will like the way things turned out.

  4. For example, if you want to go to a movie and your spouse wants to go to an art gallery, find something that you’ll enjoy at the gallery. Do a little research. Then go enjoy it. Recently I found myself in this situation, to my surprise the gallery had van Gogh’s The Starry Night on display. You don’t see that every day!

  5. Don’t sabotage this technique by believing you are compromising, it won’t work. Believe that you’re simply altering your perception and that you can choose what perception you need to make your life happy.