Forgetting is not failing 

If you’re building a new habit and you forget to do something, that’s ok. Why? Because to forget you have to remember what you forgot which is not forgetting but instead remembering just a bit too late. Which is remembering nonetheless. And takes you one step closer to a new habit. Try taking the judgement out of forgetting, and remembering,…

What does keeping score get you?

In many situations people keep a score. In relationships, it’s the number of times I take out the trash versus you. Or, do the dishes. In business, it’s how often you’ve worked late or cleaned up after a disaster. In any situation, keeping a score, and pointing it out, is almost second nature. It’s easy to be disturbed by how…

Handling Distractions: React Differently

Once you’ve developed a spidey sense that something is amiss, when a distraction arises, you can then change how you behave. You can put down the distraction, say an email, and get back to what matters. In doing this enough times you will develop a habit of quickly getting back to what matters. Distractions will cease to distract you. This…

Indecisiveness is a lack of belief 

We don’t act based on data and reason, we act based on how we feel. Feelings are a function of beliefs. So if you can’t decide how to act, it’s because you have yet to adopt a belief to guide your feelings one way over another(s). For example, if you are shopping for a new cell phone and you can’t…

Disturbed by Disturbances 

Last night when I was getting in bed I pulled the covers aside and accidentally threw them on top of Pax, she was already asleep.  I felt bad so I quickly climbed into bed and pulled the covers off of her, onto me.  She barely flinched when the covers landed on top of her.  Every day people bump into us,…

Your thoughts are not your own

When you think and feel, it’s easy to assume that what you think and feel is what you want and who you are. If a big decision is being made and you favor one outcome over another, is it because of your thoughts alone? Perhaps you felt strongly one way over another, but is that way really the way that…

Waste less time by getting rid of todo lists.

As a consultant, I have a habit of keeping track of just about everything my customers ask for. At least I used to. The work I did in the past often entailed hourly work so the more there was to do, the better. And for a long time I assumed that this was beneficial for my customer too. So I…

What isn’t used?

People ask for things all the time that they won’t use. Sometimes it’s just an idea that they ask for that they don’t really think through and don’t really intend you to carry out. Sometimes things exist because someone that came before us asked for them. And people no longer use them. Regardless the reason, you should ruthlessly search for…