Cause before resolution 

When something goes wrong we have a tendency to want to fix it as fast as possible. The human mind sees a problem as painful and any hint of resolution steals focus from finding the cause. By all means if a simple fix is ok because it’s not that important then have at it.  For example, if somebody blocked my…

Go back and do it the new way

When you’re developing a new habit, if you catch yourself following your old habit, go back and do it the new way. For example, let’s say someone tells me about a new driving route that’s faster than my current route. No doubt I’ll find myself slipping into the familiar route. When this happens and I notice, I can turn the…

Mindful eating can be just as refreshing as a hot shower.

Most of us know that we can take a hot shower and almost always feel better. Problems melt away. You feel better because feelings come from your body. And warm water is a pleasurable feeling as opposed to say cold water.  The same is true of eating food. It’s definitely something that triggers positive reinforcement.  No doubt you’ve been hangry…

What shouldn’t you do? 

Got a problem that you just can’t solve?  If you want to be creative and solve it then do what you shouldn’t do.  The shouldn’ts are often what hold us back at the artificial fences that we erect mostly because someone else told us to. Mindlessly. Have you ever felt something wasn’t proper? Not the right way to do things?…

Stop Watching the Local News

I turned on the news last night only to be barraged by a laundry list of atrocities. A home explosion, a MOAB dropped in Afghanistan, protests, a judge found dead in the Hudson, four teenagers brutally murdered, NYC officers complicit in helping a suspect escape custody, a guy got stung by a scorpion on a United flight from Texas to…

Expertise is Intuition

It’s easy to assume that expertise is experience. That ten years of experience makes an expert. Quite often it’s just ten years of experience holding a title. But after 10 years, it’s possible that a manager could be flustered when confronted with conflict resolution. Or a photographer could be incapable of framing a photo. When you’re an expert you will feel it, you’ll…

You don’t have to listen to yourself 

Your mind will tell you what it thinks whether you want to hear it or not. But just like with other people, you don’t have to listen.  You aren’t obliged to concur. You can freely ignore. You can disagree. To the untrained mind, one cannot differentiate oneself from one’s thoughts. To the trained mind, one can.

Being right often conflicts with being successful 

The desire to be “right” is occasionally mutually exclusive with being successful. Which do you prefer?  Either way the desire to be right is innate, subconscious. That means it’s largely out of your control.  You’re not a bad person for wanting to be right. No, you pretty much have no say over the satisfaction you receive. Or the gut wrenching…