Beating yourself up is a step in the right direction 

Knowing that there are things that you want to change about your own behavior is the first step toward affecting change. Beating yourself up about undesirable things is a good first step.  So contrary to the cliche, you should beat yourself up. Long enough to do something about it.  And eventually long enough to learn to identify undesirable behavior without…

Don’t organize, search 

Organization is often a waste of time, especially if you don’t know how–let alone if–you’ll ever come back to something.  For example emails, don’t put them in carefully crafted folders, just hit archive and then search when you need to find something. How much time do you waste organizing things unnecessarily? 

What do you want to see

Jonathan downloaded an app that tells us when there’s a crime happening nearby. At first it was interesting to hear about the crazy things that happen, like a report of someone being hit with a clock.  How that works, I’m not sure.  Yesterday we were at the park walking Pax, she was looking for squirrels but sadly found none. Nonetheless…

Competition is a good thing

A specious inclination is to assume that competition is a bad thing. To assume that you shouldn’t bother with your idea because someone else has already tried it or is doing it. The reality is, competition means there is a market. So, competition can be a good thing. Without out it you might be heading into unchartered territory which often leads…

Tell yourself no

One common hindrance to working out is when your mind says no even though your body is perfectly capable. And I’m not even talking about taking risks. Often the mind says no to attempting one more rep or five more degrees in a squat. And it’s not just the gym, the mind unnecessarily says no all the time.  For example,…

Try resolutions you don’t like to find cause 

When problem-solving, especially alone, if you’re stuck you should try looking at resolutions you don’t like. What biases do you have? It is possible you’re avoiding wonderful tools to ascertain the cause of the problem simply because you don’t like those tools as a resolution to the problem. It’s plausible though, to use something you don’t like to find a…

All hypocrisy isn’t equal 

It’s easy in life to find hypocrisy. Especially in politics when you are out to dismantle the opposition.  People are inherently hypocritical, all of us, because each situation and individual’s perspective dictates what matters. We simply hold too many beliefs to reconcile all of them.  For example, what is food versus a pet. We have no real reason to designate…

Don’t conflate finding cause with finding resolution 

As I’ve mentioned it’s important to find cause before a resolution when problem-solving. Part of finding cause can easily appear as if it’s finding a resolution and that can be  offputting to the point where people avoid a technique to find the cause because they don’t like the implications of it as a resolution. For example let’s say I have…